This psalm was supposed to be posted this morning, but before I was done scheduling the post, life happened. I ended up spending all day between clinics and the ER, supporting a loved one in crisis.
Like I said, life happened.
I suspect that those of you who are parents can relate. When someone whose life depends on you needs you, you sometimes have to set aside your plans and help out.
I’m fortunate that other than plants, nothing depends on me for survival. So when it became apparent that my sister who is fighting a hard battle against cancer needed me, I arranged for someone else to try and keep my plants alive while I came to help out on the other side of the world.
I say this now so you know that on other days when you hear nothing from me, it’s because of trips to the ER and such.
As for today’s psalm, the psalmist laments having been betrayed by a close friend. I wish I could say I couldn’t relate. Sadly, I’ve been hurt by loved ones, and I have been guilty of being the offender, the one who had let others down.
And while I’m certain that may be times I’ll let folks down again, my heart is never to hurt loved ones in a way that can be described as betrayal. That is my sincere heart’s cry.
Not that I am stuck lamenting the past. Stuff happened. I have been forgiven and have moved on.
“But Adele,” you might object, “for me, it’s not that easy. I simply cannot forgive myself.”
I have good news for you:
Not once—not even one time—does that Bible suggest that we must forgive ourselves.
I suspect God knows that self-forgiveness is simply too hard. We go back to mistakes made. We beat ourselves up. And then we question whether or not we truly forgave ourselves.
Self-forgiveness is a notion promoted by popular psychology, not theology.
Instead, the Bible teaches us:
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. [1 John 1:9]
So, dear friend, if you’re struggling with forgiving yourself and moving on, I invite you today to receive Jesus’ forgiveness and to step into freedom.
If you think I made up that the Bible doesn’t teach us to forgive ourselves, Google it. You may find that there are pages suggesting verses about self-forgiveness, but read those. Not one actually says we are to forgive ourselves.
I hope that that is good news to you today!
And that you may find solace in the words of today’s psalm.